
I gained 50 pounds with each of my pregnancies. I tried eating healthy foods, watching my sugar intake, and exercising every day – but my body just seemed to want to fill out into pants sized much too big. Nine months after my second son was born, I was still trying to lose the extra weight. About that time, we decided to have family pictures taken by a talented photographer and personal friend of mine. She captured my family perfectly. However when I looked at those pictures for the first time, all I could think about was how fat I looked. How if only I had lost more weight, the pictures would have been stunning.
It got me thinking…
Most of us really struggle with body image. We are never going to live up to the idea of physical beauty that stares at us from the faces of men and women everywhere we look – magazines, commercials, and online ads. Face it girls (and guys too!). But here’s the thing- even models and stars have body image issues and imperfections. They also have personal trainers, dietitians, stylists, and make-up artists. And even after they have been made over by this entire team of people dedicated just to making them look beautiful, they are photoshopped. They are digitally slimmed, sculpted, smoothed, and de-blemished until perfection is reached. They are fake. We are comparing our real amazing wonderful bodies to fake bodies. No wonder we all have image issues. Even me- and I know better!
I can’t tell you how many times I have heard “I would really love to schedule a family session with you, but first I need to lose ___ lbs”. But babies grow into toddlers, and toddlers grow into children- and it all happens so incredibly fast! If a moment isn’t captured, it’s often forgotten. And it IS about the moments, right? It’s about those whispered “I love you”s, bear hugs, belly laughs, and shared joys. It’s about realizing all over again in one simple blissful moment that it’s worth it- worth the loss of sleep from 2am feedings, the worry that comes with an illness, the frustration that you sometimes feel after spending all day with a grumpy kid, the self sacrifice…it’s worth everything.
I know that in ten years, when I look back on my own family photos, I will not be thinking about my flabby stomach or my thunder thighs- instead I’m going to be re-living the memory of my oldest son jumping into my arms and planting the biggest wettest kiss on my cheek. I’m going to remember how my youngest son smiled with his mouth AND his eyes… and all of those good things. I am still hard at work trying to lose the baby weight. Self improvement is a process. But until I achieve my perfect model body (like never!), I’m going to keep smiling for the camera.
Please give yourself and your amazing body a break. Keep hugging, loving, and laughing – and try to have at least some of your beautiful life captured on camera. You won’t regret it.
